Do You Have A Social Life?

No. (End of blog entry. jk)

In all seriousness, it's hard to have a personal life with comedy. As I discuss often on my award winning podcast SINGLES ONLY (available everywhere - shameless promotion), if you are committed to comedy, you are going to miss a lot of "fun stuff" like weddings, parties, concerts and special events. I was used it from my days in music, having shows on weekends back then too. but comedy is its own animal, taking up most of the week, if you are a working comedian, like me.

As for dating, it takes a very spontaneous, supportive, independent and open minded person to date a comedian. On dating apps, you often see people talk about wanting to experience "new things" and and "dating a comedian" is often initially seen as a possible fun little excursion. Ultimately, most people can't adjust to the lifestyle. In addition to sometimes being emotionally unavailable, we are also also physically unavailable. We cancel plans when we get last minute stage time, which is more valuable than gold (bitcoin?) to a comedian.

At times when most people make plans, like weekends and dinner time, we are working. And unlike a "new restaurant" or flying a kite, comedy is its own "thing." I love it and live it and have dated people who appreciate the pro's of dating a comedian. The fact that they get to come see me perform live comedy with people they have watched on TV, sometimes meeting and hanging out with them afterwards, laughing harder than they ever will. I am sure the Picasso exhibit is amazing and kayaking has its health perks, but I will take laughing till my face hurts with the funniest people alive at Waffle House every single time. Laughter is always more fascinating to me than any art or museum exhibit or trendy new dining spot.

I once suggested meeting someone for dinner after my show, which in this case was 9:30pm and when I normally eat dinner (I don't eat before shows - thats another story for another blog). The girl was offended, saying something like "I am not a groupie, waiting for you to get done with your 'little' show!"

Of course, she failed to realize that my 9:30pm was me getting off work and no different from her 5pm getting off work and the fact that she belittled the concept of my work made me realize there was no point in trying to explain. Ironically, she fancied herself as someone who strived for new experiences. I'm sure she is ziplining somewhere with a successful but unfunny banker. Comedy is not for everyone.

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